Thoughts on Self Worth

Hello all,

I've had a long night of talking to my best friend, my sister, and my Gma, and I'm beginning to notice a common thread. I feel like one of the greatest obstacles in life is determining your own self worth. Figuring out your purpose and finding joy within your own being. Most of us (myself included) tend to derive validation through the feelings of others. How many of us have let our standing with a friend or boyfriend determine the scope of our own lives? I know that part of your self worth is counting the blessings you have in those you love, but what about your self?

I feel that, to live a fulfilling life, you need to be whole. And that sense of wholeness should find it's root within you. Appreciating those who make your life happy and whole is essential. But before you can do that, you have to appreciate yourself. Appreciate your goals, and stand for your beliefs. Sit through those long nights of tears and questions and work through them alone. Discover that you can do this by yourself, find your own strength. And then allow others to add to your life.

 When you are a whole person, you can give your whole heart to others.

My Aunt Sam told me once that she disagrees with the saying "you complete me." At the time I didn't understand what she meant, but now I really do. Allow yourself to be complete. Allow yourself to resonate joy.

I find that, especially people my age, tend to focus all of their thoughts on other people. Obviously, if you're in a relationship a large majority of your thoughts gravitate towards your partner. Which makes sense. But people put such an emphasis on being single and "taking time for yourself." Yet every single person I know has someone else lingering in their thoughts, whether they are getting over someone or getting to know someone new. We are either focusing on the void left from the ghost of someone, or the potential to fill it with someone new.

What about being whole in yourself?

Jen